TGIF

Amen to that. Every week has it ups and downs.

This week a family friend is needing good thoughts and prayers. His wife lost her way and took her own life. Leaving many family, friends and 4 beautiful children.

Each and every one of us have our on path. Our destiny as it were. Today each of those four children have to say goodbye to their Mommy. Many, many years too early.

I have seen much in my years on this earth and I really am quite young yet. To name a few. I watched 3 family members battle kidney failure and were on dialysis. My husbands Grandfather fell and broke his neck at 86 years of age and spent his last 5 months in the hospital. My Great-Grandmother found out she had cancer at 98 years of age. She lasted 2 months. My uncle who lived 4 years with ALS. And our son. Each of these people hold a very special place in my life.

All life has value. No matter how short or long as it were. One cannot measure a person’s value by the number of days, weeks, years or decades they are on this earth. Unfortunately, for some, it is after someone is gone that they realize what that value is.

My cousin, was a severe diabetic and diagnosed at 19 years of age. She lost her sight and went into full renal failure before the age of 30. She passed away at 32 years of age. She taught Sunday school, was a Girl Guide Leader for 15 years and work at the school board office. I know in my heart the reason she never married was because she knew deep down she would never walk this earth long enough to raise any children she may have and she could not risk that. She let go the love of her life so that he may have the chance at a family.

My aunt, her mother. Developed diabetes in her 50s. She went into renal failure at 62 years of age. She had battled colon cancer in her 50s. She was my Mothers eldest sister and really like a second mother. There were 15 years age difference. It was like losing my Grandmother a second time. She looked after my Mom for most the first year of life and her early years. My Grandmother was very sick after she was born. She gave of herself completely.

My Grandfather was a character. At 15 years of age he went to work to pay the bills. His father was ill and could no longer look after the family farm. His two older brothers had died. One most likely of Sids. It was the 1920s. The second was struck by a car riding his bicycle at 12 years of age. That left my Grandfather and 5 sisters. He worked to feed the family. He had 3 heart attacks, and kidney disease. He was in full renal failure at the age of 66. At 73 years of age and having just had part of is leg amputated due to circulation he passed away. Peacefully at 9:40 on Sunday morning. 20 minutes early for church. He had been a Deacon for 55 Years. He was a school janitor, taught Sunday School, and taught Awana. Dozens of children in this area were able to go to Summer Camp as my Grandparents donated anonymously every year to ensure those children that could not would have that chance.

And our son. You know that story. From the first time I could touch him. From my hospital bed, as the wheeled me thru the NICU after I left recovery. Those moments change everything.

I tell you these stories so that you may know the value of each life. They live on. Each of these people had a hand in molding who I am today. I thank them for that and love them all so very much.

TGIF! Remember you have value. You add it to those around you each day.

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2 responses

  1. You had me welling up with tears on this one!
    I am, some would say ‘lucky’ I suppose as I haven’t suffered many loses in my life. Most likely because we don’t speak to any of my mothers side so it wipes them out of the equation. (Which is a very long story and one of the only things I’m bitter and angry about in life). But anyway… I suffered my first loss at aged 17. My dear Mum. She battled with alcohol and mental health issues until she finally passed of cancer aged 42. In a way I’m ‘pleased’ it was cancer that took her, because it could of quite easily of been the alcohol or her taking her own life eventually, so it spares me from having to have an awkward conversation when people when they ask why she passed. I can just say cancer which is much easier to explain and people don’t really ask questions which I’d rather not answer.
    Anyway I’m blabbering! I’m sorry for your loses, and I am very saddened to hear of your friends wife passing recently too. I will be thinking of them today xxx

    February 21, 2014 at 4:43 am

    • Jo

      Oh… To lose your Mom at such a young age. I am sorry for that. Yes, I can see what you are saying in regards to her passing and having to answer the questions. It would be far less awkward. I feel for this children and the very long road ahead. Thank you so much for your kind thoughts.

      Having lost each of these family members was very hard. Hard to watch them have to endure pain. But, I am blessed in the end. I can say I am their cousin, their neice and their granddaughter. I can say I knew them. We are a family.

      February 21, 2014 at 11:17 am

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