Visit

My husband’s cousin brought home her baby on Thursday.  He was a 28w 5d prem. His due date was June 27th. So today he is 37 weeks.

All weekend we have been asked have you seen the baby?  When are you going?  We are not.  There has been a steady stream of people into that home since Thursday evening.  In addition to the visits they planned to take him to an event in our town on Saturday, with several hundred people…  Yes, my husband and I both have our flu and Tdap.  So all necessary precautions have been taken.

However, he is a prem.  He is to have limited access to visitors for the time being.  Now because we are choosing to do as instructed by Neonatologist, and the NICU we are the jerks.

Yesterday, as we drove to the lake my husband stated “What did they think we were doing in the hospital for 3 weeks?  Having a vacation?”  How do you respond to that statement.  Every part of it is truth and valid.

I informed some of the family that we would not be over so the message would filter through.  When questioned why I stated “He is to have limited visits and we are choosing to comply with those wishes for his health and well-being.  We will not be over anytime soon.”

We are doing our best to convey congrats and to protect our selves emotionally.  Within all of this our own family cannot understand why it would be so difficult to go and visit a child that was born 5 days older than our own son and he was able to come home.  We want what is best for their family and for their son.  We have sent love, congrats and well wishes and continue to pray that all will be well.

But we must do so at a distance.

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4 responses

  1. I completely respect this decision. First it’s medically what is best for the child. Second, and more importantly for you, it’s what you need to do for you. I wish people could be more compassionate and understand. I’m sorry you are not getting this from your family, but I think it’s great that you are doing what is right for you anyways. Sending you love.

    June 6, 2016 at 10:30 am

    • Jo

      🙂 Thank you so very much. Due to our circumstance we are far to versed in the what if’s…

      June 6, 2016 at 10:35 am

  2. I am glad you are making choices that are in the best interest of your family. That can be hard especially if you do not get support. Thinking of you!

    June 6, 2016 at 1:12 pm

    • Jo

      Thank you so much!

      June 7, 2016 at 2:26 pm

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